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My 3 yr old does not want to listen

 
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 4:11 pm    Post subject: My 3 yr old does not want to listen Reply with quote

Hi, Im new here. I have a 3 yr old daughter, who at times can be so loving and caring and a good girl, but most of the time, she does not want to listen to me. She throws fits and swings at me,makes me chase her around to get dressed. When I yell at her or try to discipline her she laughs at me. Cant get her to go to sleep. I dont like hitting, so I use a little flick with my fingers sometimes but she still laughs. The funny thing is, is that her father and I split her 50/50 and when she is there she is totally the opposite. She goes to bed on her own, she cleans up her toys and everything. She is really affectionate towards me when she is not throwing her fits, and she always wants to be right near me, including me in all of her playing and activities. But what can I do to make her listen to me, for her to understand that when I say no I mean no.
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JanetM



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PostPosted: Tue Feb 14, 2006 9:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Three years old is a tough age. She may grow out of it soon. They seem to change around four. Timeout seems to work for me. As soon as my son does something wrong, he is in front of the door and stays there until I say he can leave -- even if I have to sit there in a chair the whole time. It pays off later...Be firm and consistent.
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myzima2000



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PostPosted: Wed Feb 15, 2006 9:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I know when my son was younger and he was doing regular visitation with my ex my son use to act like your daughter and when he finally stopped coming to get my son my son acted like a normal child i dont want to alarm you but it may be something going on if your daughter does visitation. i found out later that my sons visitation were not as safe and happy as i hoped they would be and now i can understand why mom son acted the way he did just something to think about now my son still thoughts fits but they are not like they use to be they are normal child fits and they do get better as they get older but being consitant is a main key
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JanetM



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PostPosted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 4:08 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

My son also acts different after his visitation weekend with his father. Me and my husband usually say it's time for "deprogramming" when he comes back. It usually takes a day or two. This behavior seems to have gotten better in recent years. It was much worse when he was younger -- like four.
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myzima2000



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PostPosted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 6:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

yea i know what you mean but i think bad things were happening to my son when he had full visitation on the weekends because he was out of my sons life for a year and my son was like a completely different child the really bad fits stopped and he was having just the normal fits children that age have and now that my ex has supervise visitation i dont have nearly the problem i had when he was two and younger but i documented his behavior so i could see if there was a pattern and there was and i also wanted the documentation just incase i needed it but my son just turned four and he is much better
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