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Mom of one



Joined: 17 Jun 2008
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State or Province: Alabama

PostPosted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 3:46 pm    Post subject: Crazy Stepmom Reply with quote

My ex just married a girl that is 22 years younger than him. I have an 8 year old daughter. My ex finally got smart and said, "No more kids for me" but his wife is only 22 and she is dying for one. She has become obsessive about my little girl. My ex encourages the behavior as it pacifies her need to have a baby. I don't appreciate my "area" of parenting being trampled on constantly by this young girl. I hate that she is so young and being denied a baby of her own but I can't help she chose to marry a selfish man. She is constantly texting me to make sure I did something for my little girl, when I am her mother, raised her all by myself now for 8 years and haven't forgotten a thing yet. I try to be nice, sometimes I am not but I try. This is very, very frustrating and I feel I have no rights to step up and say, "Hey, back off!" I am glad she is good to my little girl but she is driving me crazy. Nobody seems to know how to stop this. I look like the mean mom, I am not, I just am not going to let this little girl step in and try to replace me in my daughter's life. It is very frustrating.
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Still in Love



Joined: 05 Sep 2006
Posts: 216
State or Province: California

PostPosted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 7:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Pull her and your ex aside and let tell her in front of him, that you are her mother, and that she needs to stop texting you on how you should raise your daughter and that from now on that only the biological parents will have any discussion on the raising of your daughter and you and your ex will let her know the itinerary for the visits...
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Mom of one



Joined: 17 Jun 2008
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State or Province: Alabama

PostPosted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 8:27 pm    Post subject: Crazy Step Mother Reply with quote

Thank you for your advice. I have tried that but it just keeps happening. I will try it again. My papers do say that she isn't to interfere if I don't want her too. She is so young, I think she is doing it "innocently" but she needs to know when to stop. I will tell her politely, "I got it, don't worry, I know how to take care of her". I try to be the bigger person by not letting them know it is getting to me but it really is a struggle. Thank you for your input!
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Still in Love



Joined: 05 Sep 2006
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State or Province: California

PostPosted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 11:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Instead of saying I got it, I know how to take care of her... say something like... I am her mother not you... if you want to be someone's mother... go have one of your own but in the mean time please stop interfereing with my child or I will have to take this back to court and hold you and ex in contempt of court since the court papers specifically state you are NOT to interfere in the upbringing of MY child.

Stop being nice. Start being the mother lion. This is your child. throw it in her face that she married a man the will never give her a child. Hell, you can make her feel worse by saying something to the fact that... I am sorry that ex only wants a child with me... apparently he doesn't see you as a fit woman to mother one of his children... and that you are too young to know how to be a proper mother...

She'll back off.
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 6:47 am    Post subject: Crazy Step Mom Reply with quote

Thanks! Maybe I am being too nice.
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