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noncustodial parents rights and feelings

 
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jittabuggrl
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:58 pm    Post subject: noncustodial parents rights and feelings Reply with quote

Hi everyone, I have been feeling very alone and confused. I raised my daughter birth to nine and half years, and after lengthy custody discpute ( 3 yrs ) My ex and I ended up modifying the custody terms from myself having sole custody to him and I sharing joint legal custody with physical custody to him, then him and his wife relocated out of state withOut my prior knowledge and later I received a less than five sentence letter in the mail to inform me of their new address, I was devistated. Now I am meant with silence, my telephone messeges go unanswered, my letters receive no reply, and I am at a total loss needing to reach out as I am certain thers must be too. I have searched online for places where noncustodial parents could share in discussion with other noncustodial parents, and aside from just now finding this one I couldnt find one. I started my own personal homepage at:
http://www.geocities.com/jittabuggrl/friend4you.html
please feel welcome to visit there.
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JEANETTE
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

me and my husband haven't been together for a long time he was abussive we had 3 children he got custody of one and i got the other two he mad my life missible he got my two tooken away and wouldnt let me see my other one then his ex girlfriend got custody of the one i havent seen my child in a long time iv been asking for visiation its been a headache i have a another childhome with me by my boyfriend and that child wants to know the other sibbling
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snugglemomliz
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Althought I can understand your feelings I am wondering about how a person in my situation is to respond. My husband's first marriage ended very badly. In the divorce/custody he received sole physical/sole legal custody of his daughter. She received visitation M,W,&F while we were at work. In 1997 she deceided the parting was more inportant than her visits with her daughter, in the end she now only has supervised visitation, but has yet to ask for any visit whatsoever. What rights should she still have to my daughter?
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breeee@bellsouth.net
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I raised my child for 9-years, my ex-husband did not have nothing to do with my child for the whole 9 years and now that he got her because of unstability, he does not give me any of my parental rights. you don't have to have an attorney to get support, but you have to spend out the butt just to see your child. my heart really aches.
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singles.o.s
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

i sent my daughter a gift certified in the mail to her grandmothers sense i do not know where she lives and the refused it. i am really at my wits end with this whole mess. no one wants to help. the state is so ready to help fathers get their rights or to get support, but they wont help a mother that her rights are being violated. my daughter wants to come home. shouldn't that mean something. If not help me, They should at least consider hers. she is only eleven and feels all alone. They are tring to make he think that her mother does not care about her, then what little time i doget with her, i hve to try and assure her that i love her with all my heart. I just pray that it is working. I pray to god everyday that this battle comes to an end soon.
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JINGLES6966
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 10:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

HI EVERYBODY,
I HAVE A 5 MONTH BABY BOY AND HE IS WITH HIS GRANDMOTHER BECAUSE SHE FILED EMERGENCEY TEMP CUSTODY UNTILL THE COURT DATE ON THE 13. THEN SHE WILL FILE FOR GUARDIANSHIP.FULL!!!!!
SHE HAD STATED ALL THESE HORRIBLE THING ABOUT ME AND MY FAMILY THAT ARNT TRUE. CPS HAD SAID THAT MY HEALTH AND MY BABYS HEALTH WAS GREAT. SO THIS GRANDMOTHER WENT BEHIND THE JUDGES BACK AND SAID MY BABY WAS ABANDED AND IN AN UNSAFE INVIROMENT. SHE HAS TAKEN MY BABY, AND HAS WANTED HIM SINCE THE BEGINING.ITS LIKE ONE OF THOES LIFE TIME MOVIES. PLEASE HELP ME
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MOMINNEED
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 10:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

28 yr.old mom of 4 kids.Last year my children were taken from me by the state.I think I was set up by an exboyfriend who I had put in jail for Domestic violence.He told me he would pay me back in the worst way&he did.One of my kids lives with his father(seperated from his other siblings i might add)His father never lets him spend time with them.My mother has custody of the other 3 kids.I reconsiled with the ex whom i put in jail,but only for a little while.He had everything planned out this way.He got a sitter for my 1 son&i took my daughter with us because of her medical problems.I had the sitter watch my kids before with no problems.Well he left my son alone and the cops&CSP was called by a neighbor.My ex also has an Aunt who works for CSP.Ive done almost everything that CSP has asked of me but they still refuse to return the children to my care.Im at my wits end as what to do! My mother is brainwashing my kids against me everyday.She tells my 7 yr.old son that mommys never getting us kids back.(that is not something you say to a 7 yr.old child by no means).My brother still lives at home with her and helps care for the children,my daughter now is calling him DADA.Which i have also told her time&time again that I dont like.I just dont know where to turn,Can someone please Help!! What is it just because I was on welfare or what?is it just cause I have emotional problems?There are lots of other parents out there that raise thier kids&have emotional problems.Just because I was on welfare doesnt mean I didnt love my kids or care for them right! Why was my kids&i the ones who have to pay because of what someone else did?Why Did i have to be incarcerated for something that wasnt my fault&have our lives torn upside down! If anyone can help(PLEASE DO) I dont know where to turn anymore?
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melissa



Joined: 07 Feb 2006
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State or Province: Wisconsin

PostPosted: Tue Feb 07, 2006 4:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi everyone. This is my first visit to this site and I am so glad that I am not the only one. I feel for each of you, because I know what it is like, I am crying right now. I raised my daughter till she was 7 in a half, then I was revoked on my probation for a crime my sister did and I was with her. I was put on probation for felony assault and battery on her dad when I found him in the shower with another girl. While I was in jail he took me to court and won temporary custody and placement, but his lawyer slipped in sole custody and the judge signed it. So when I got out, 4 yrs ago, I filed a visitation pettition. I had to see a specialist who then outlined things I had to do before we could proceed with the case such as, see a psycologist to see if I was depressed and in need of pills, see a councelor, take parenting classes, keep a job, keep a clean house. Even after I did all of this her father kept coming up with other things for me to do. I think it was because he had a high powered attorney and I had myself. They even tried to terminate my rights but couldnt. Finally when they couldnt do any more the judge granted me visitation but we have rules on that too. We have to go through social services and first I have to write to her(every 2 weeks) I am supposed to go to her sporting events but I cant talk to her, then after around 3-4 months then we will start supervised visits, then I will get to do unsupervised visits. But, since her father has had 4 yrs of brain washing she dosent want anything to do with me. Her father tried on other time to get custody but he couldnt because he lived with his brother on a farm, so while I was in jail he found a girl from the internet, moved her up here, then married her all to get my daughter. This is crap I have worked so hard to see her and now he wins again. I dont understant, I have 2 other children, my daughter is in the middle, so why did I have to do all of this for her and not the others.

I would like it if any of you had any ideas on what I could do to help my daughter remember that we did love eachother and I was not a bad mother. In fact she never left my side. I know she is scared, since she is now 12.
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romeyluv



Joined: 11 Sep 2008
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State or Province: California

PostPosted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 2:00 pm    Post subject: dealing with CPS Reply with quote

Hi every1,
I have been dealing w CPS all my life...as a former foster kid growing up in the system 4 false allegations on my dad...2 havn my siblings being removed...my oldest 2 kids being taken and adopted @ the age of 2 & 3 months...2 now having my younger 2 now being in the system. It is a very long,HaRD battle. I was bypassed services while the dad...who wants 2 raise them w me...is offered services...CPS is using it against him...they plot w his family who r against us being 2gether...
All u mothers out there NEED 2 STAY STRONG,GIVE it 2 GOD,and FIGHT Like HELL!!! DON'T take NO 4 an answer...ure kids will ALWAYS LOVE U n COME BACK 2 U...from my personal eperience w my dads family and cps tryn 2 keep me from my mom...it brought us CLOSER....I ranaway 2 look for her @ 13....Soooo DON'T GIVE UP LADIES!!!
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