I'm new to this forum.

[chasenalex]

Hello. I am new to this group.

I am the mother of two boys; one is 31 and the other is 16. I am divorced from their father and remarried almost 6 years ago to my soulmate. My older son lives and works in Chicago as an IT consultant. My younger son lived with me for 16 years until last week, when a court ordered a change of custody to his father and against the 16 year old's wishes.

I am still in shock that without cause my son can be manipulated by a court out of my custody where he was safe, healthy, well educated and happy and into the custody of a father who left when he was 4 years old to chase women, ignored him for ten years, and is mentally and verbally abusive. He filed a lawsuit 2 years ago for custody.

I have done nothing wrong and am an excellent parent, yet I lost my son after the judge held an impromptu hearing which my attorney could not attend. I was ambushed by the judge who allowed the other attorney and an inappropriately appointed child's attorney to make outrageous claims and false accusations against me. The judge then based his decision on these false statements without allowing any defense.