advice on single mother rights.......

[aml]

hi, i am new to this site, as well as a "chat-room". anyways, need some advice. New mother, single, father dumped me in my fourth month, and has never been involved in any aspect of the pregnancy. told me he has other priorities, yet now that the baby is here (5 days old), suddenly he wants to be father of the year. his family is bugging me as well to come see the baby all the time. what rights do i have to say....."you never cared before, what makes you think i am going to open the door for you now??"

he is listed on the birth certificate as i thought i HAD to do so..... any advice on how i can control him and his family? they are stressing me to no end!

[Still in Love]

If you hadn't listed him on the Birth certificate then you would have all the rights and could tell them that you don't want them there.

But you listed him as the father, and he has 50% of the parental rights. If he took you to court right now... he would start off with moderate visits and build up.

My advise is to allow them to come for an hour or so once a week cause if he takes you to court and says I am on the birth certificate and she is not allowing me to see the baby, then it will not look good for you.

he has a right to see his child. and a court isn't going to hold it against him for not being there while you were pregnant, since the court system does not recognise the pregnancy as it is a child till it takes it's first breath. You say that the baby is only 5 days old, well... he is there now and that is what the courts will look at.

[luisel]

I need to find out how can i get legal paper stating I have full custody . i was not married to father never payed child suppourt. he is on birth certicate . he went back to Mexico . I dont know how to locate . and I need passports for my 2 kids

[Still in Love]

You need to go to family court and petition for full physical and legal custody.

[lrd42726]

I have always been leniant with my daughters dad. However, lately he has really been pushin my buttons. Okay he has been in and out of her ife every since I was pregnant, after I had her, and up until now. He is the type that could go several days, weeks, and even months without checking on our daughter. I have been here for her since day one. I have full custody and he just has visitation, he is ordered to pay child supprt. These last few months have been hard considering the fact that we have remained friends all this time. He lies A LOT!!!! I thought I could trust him and this, that, and the other. Now I'm not sue. He has been jumping from relationship to relationship. Might I had we werre never married, thank goodness! I have been with the same guy for almost two years and he is more of a daddy to her than her real dad is. Anyway I found out that on the weekends he gets hr, hes not been staying where he said he was. I DONT CARE WHO HES WITH, but IVE GOT A RIGHT TO KNOW WHERE MY LITTLE GIRLS AT WHEN HE HAS HER, RIGHT?????????? He made the comment to me that I had no right to tell him where he can take her when hes got her and that all I need to know was that he had her and that hes with her. I don't hinks its right, no more than he sees her or has to do with her, I feel like I have every right in the world to know where my baby girl is when he has her. I have been told that he has had her down at his exwifes and she is very mean and only cares about her own daughter. She has always despised my babygirl, I'm scared she will hurt her or something. Please help me out!