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Paulman95
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PostPosted: Sat Jan 28, 2006 12:45 am    Post subject: Need help with custody for daughter Reply with quote

My daughter is 10 she has always lived with me. Her father has never paid child support and we have never been married. My daughter and I live in PA and he lives in MI. We also have never been to court I don't have the money and he has never wanted to pay so we kind of left it as I would take her to see him when I could afford it. Well for the past 1 1/2 I haven't been able to afford to take her and my car won't take the 7 hr trip. Well now he wants to come and pick her up for the weekend and take her back to MI with him. He says that he will bring her back but I can't trust that he will. Her father is an idiot. He was very abusive to both of us and thats why it didn't last. She kind of remembers it all but she still wants to see her father. Mainly because the 3 times a year we would go to see him he would let her pick out a couple toys and she loves it. (as a single Mom most of what I have goes to bills) but she has never gone without what she needs. I am affraid that he won't bring her home and he will try to keep her out there. I don't know how I would get out there if he pulled something like that or if he would have any right to try to keep her. I have no clue about any laws. Any help would be great.
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slbennett1025@yahoo.com
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PostPosted: Sat Jan 28, 2006 12:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Paulman95,

DON'T DO IT. DO NOT and I emphasize NOT let him take her out of state. If you feel that there is any chance that he will NOT bring her back. Trust me, this board is full of women that made that mistake and are crying, grieving, praying and deperately hoping to get their children back.
Nowadays, a man can just full out lie without any proof and take the children (it's called getting out of responsibility for child support). I personally have been battling this for 8 long years. It will be another 7 years before my youngest is 18. The courts are extremely corrupt and just want any excuse to make themselves money. Trust me, all you will be doing is paying for the gas in their golf carts at their little country club instead of being able to be a parent to your child. Of course, he's going to bribe her with toys so that he can gain her trust and try to make you seem "unfit". Please, for her sake and yours, absolutely without a doubt, don't let him take her. You will only end up on heartbreak creek without a paddle and if you think the courts will be your "paddle", ha! you've got another thing coming. Hang tight Mom.
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burnedmom96
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PostPosted: Sat Jan 28, 2006 12:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Paulman95,

I totally agree with slbennett. The courts are all too happy to see a 'man' stepping up, trying to take the children away from the mother, because they are so used to seeing men just walk away. ( Hey, what happened to those kind of guys anyways? I want them back!)
Anyways, slbennet is right, its just putting an extra buck in the courts pocket and relieving men of that horrible child support bill. What kid deserves child support, right? Please dont let him take your child. I had full custody of my then 8 yr old daughter who went with her dad 200 miles away for a visit. He kept her for 6 weeks without a court order!!! I had to drive the 200 miles and get a police escort to get her back, and her dad also sent her home with headlice without even notifying. Not to mention he filled my daughters head with lies that her grandmother and I dont love her or want her, thats why I never came to get her those 6 weeks I was gone, and even thats why I sent her with him, because ' I didnt want her"....Please dont do it, you are treading on very dangerous ground. I went through hell and back, am still doing so now. I have a final custody hearing tomorrow. I dont ever want to see you or another mother go thru what I have.
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