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How do mothers cope with missing your baby during visitation

 
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praying mommy



Joined: 07 Aug 2009
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State or Province: Texas

PostPosted: Fri Aug 07, 2009 2:52 am    Post subject: How do mothers cope with missing your baby during visitation Reply with quote

My baby is 15mos old. I am an overprotective mom. My daughter sleeps with me, I just stopped breastfeeding, and my child's father and his family has been cause ing drama and negativity since she was born. When she is gone during her visitations I freak out!

I try to go to movies and stay around family and friends but its so hard! I cry and cry! They won't let me call just once to check on her and she is a baby!

I am having a HARD time accepting the fact that she is his child to and SHARING HER! I keep dreading when she turns 2 she will spend the night away from me!!!!!! I think I am stressing SO much that it may be un healthy! Do I need thrapy? I am not dating but then its hard to find someone when you are a single working mom of a toddler.

Not to mention my daughter's father has already moved on by living with another female and they have a baby already!!! I never want to be with my ex but its funny have men move on so quickly!

What can I do to cope with these issues? I don't want to stress out 24-7 because her dad is living his life happily...how come I can't?
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nycmomma510



Joined: 21 Aug 2009
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State or Province: New York

PostPosted: Fri Aug 21, 2009 11:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I split from my ex when my son was 6 months old. I was in the EXACT same situation as you are; my ex wanted overnights even when my son was nursing!

I had to move for a job, and was basically bullied into giving my ex overnights in exchange for putting food on the table for my son and I, when he was 15 months old. It was AWFUL. I was devastated. I couldn't function when he was gone, I was depressed, etc. I go to therapy still to cope, but we now only have one-night overnights versus two.

All I can say, is that now that my son is 3.5, and TELLS me what goes on when he's with his dad, it's a lot easier for me to cope. I call him to say goodnight, we speak on the phone, etc. It is VERY HARD until they can talk to you, especially if you don't trust your ex, which is my issue. He lies to me, intentionally ignores my calls to my son, etc.

Hang in there....it's a rough road, I'll be honest, but you CAN do it. It stinks, but you can get through it. Once I started having a life outside of my child, going out w/friends, dating again, etc., that helps too.

I'm here, and I get it, so feel free to chat w/me anytime!
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