Joined: 31 Aug 2010
State or Province: Washington
|Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2010 10:38 am Post subject: Hi, My name is Cindy
|I'm not a single mom yet, but I'm seriously considering asking my husband to leave. I just want to know what I'm getting myself into.
Here's the situation:
My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. We have 4 1/2 yr old twin girls. He hasn't worked since before their 3rd birthday. Granted, he's stayed home with them while I've worked, but it hasn't been easy. We recently moved back to Washington state from Kansas, and I've come to realize since the move that he's a very lazy man.
He's let himself go to the point where he ways almost 600lbs and he has almost all of the health issues you would expect from being that far overweight. He complains all the time about how he hates being overweight, he hates hurting all the time because of it, he hates being tired all the time because of it, he hates the sores on his legs that are a result of the weight issue. But he does nothing about it. He's got an antibiotic that was given to him at the beginning of July for his legs, and he won't take them. He's got a prescription for an anti-inflammatory for his knees that he rarely takes. He *might* shower once a week.
Ok, I know this is supposed to be more about being a mom. I don't think he's a very good role model for my kids. I can't be sure that he doesn't fall asleep during the day while he's supposed to be watching them. He cusses at them, he gets mad for the stupidest (sp?) things, he never does anything with them if I'm home. I don't know what else to do.
I can pretty much guarantee that I would get custody if there were to be a fight over it, but I'm hoping there won't be. He's not physically capable of bathing them. He has no means of income unless he were to get a job, and he doesn't think he can with his health issues.
I'm crying just writing this, but I am hoping for some advice of some sort.
Thank you if you made it all the way through this.