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maks37



Joined: 09 Nov 2011
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State or Province: New York

PostPosted: Thu Nov 10, 2011 12:13 am    Post subject: new to site. pls help? Reply with quote

I don't really know how this works, but Im going crazy missing my son and getting nowhere, so maybe SOMEONE can identify, or understand???
I lost my son 2 yrs ago. He is now 6 yrs old. I ran into a store and left my son in my car. My ex was abusive...mostly verbal, but it turned physical, and I ended up in a psych ward...so he filed for divorce on grounds I was unstable and he was granted sole custody. I WAS depressed, but I have worked through issues....and I got help...but its two years and I have 2 hours supervised visits/week. My ex fights EVERYTHING. If I ask for unsupervised, he wants letters from health professionals... and the courts are taking so long because he keeps delaying proceedings and fighting me... and its a re-occurance of the control he had during our marriage. Only now, my son wants to know why I can't see his art at school, etc... I am a very passive person, and I tolerate a lot... but I don't even know how i am allowed to fight and I NEED to. I do have a lawyer, but I didn't pay him for a while when I was in the hospital (and I lost my job, etc)... so he isn't very invested, but i can't leave him as council. I know i'm not doing enough to be with my son, but I dont' know what I can do.... ie. can I go to his school if I have supervised visits... and meet with his teachers???? If anyone can help, i'd appreciate. Thank you.
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Still in Love



Joined: 05 Sep 2006
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State or Province: California

PostPosted: Thu Nov 10, 2011 6:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

No you can't. He has sole custody meaning he has both physical and legal custody. You can't go unless the courts give you permission saying you have joint legal.

I would get on the ball with your attorney. get your self working, and make sure you continue to go to counselling. Just cause you had or have issues doesn't mean you can't be a good parent.

I would request that family medication be done... where a mediator can see him try to control everything.
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